Dreamscaping involves both a PROCESS (Interviewing and Brainstorming with the memory artist) and a PRODUCT (Photo Search and Creation of the healing dreamscape with the memory artist).  These healing dreamscapes visualize a “preferred story” or positive self-belief story that you and I come up with together. The tangible dreamscape—always photo-based so it comes as close to memory as possible, might take the form of a photo collage, photomontage, or even 3-D shrine, etc.— then can be shared with your support network, or kept privately for contemplation.  For example, for those who are grieving loss of a person who was your principal cheerleader in life, I might repurpose photos which at one time had happier associations to this person but which are now calcified in sadness. I’d then reconfigure the photos into a picture of the deceased helping you see achieve your goal.  In this very example, the healing dreamscape narrates a brave next step for the bereaved, by depicting the deceased as a supportive presence instead of an absent supporter.

Filled with positive symbols, metaphors and sensory images which speak to their emotional brain, the healing dreamscape aims to shift our thinking, helping  us look beyond our negative filter. Seeing it each day becomes an instrumental way for you to practice being the new person you want to be.

Making these custom-created, meaning-laden pieces of artwork involves a 5-step process that depends heartily upon the memory artist’s provocative questions and consensus-building. The 5 steps are: Intake, Brainstorming, Photo Search, Creation and Sharing.

Step 1: Intake & Photo Review.  The client flips through personal photo­graphs, introducing the main characters  of their preferred story and the circumstances of their loss or regrets, while also describ­ing current challenges and hopes for the future. Throughout, I ask the client to elaborate on their sense-impressions, a process that provides rich vi­sual detail for the dreamscape.  If appropriate, I inquire into any past trauma (either a “Big T” trauma or a “Little T” slight aimed at the client). For example, I’ll ask:

  • “Tell me everything you loved about your mother. Tell me stories about how she changed you while she was alive.”
  • “Describe where your healing dreamscape will sit in your house or in your office.”
  • “Do you come from a particular ethnic or faith tradition?”
  • “Did your child have a good sense of humor? What kind?”
  • Was Grama devout, or not at all?
  • “Where do you think your loved one is now?
  • “Tell me about their favorite places, songs, things to wear or eat.”

Step 2: Brainstorming. After hear­ing the client’s story of loss/regrets, the client and I jointly determine whether the dreamscape should represent a preferred future or preferred legacy. I’ll probe for the dreamscape’s play­ers, props and setting, and its intended au­dience.  The overarching ques­tion that informs the selection of images will be: what photos best portray the deceased as the client wants this person to be remembered?

Step 3: Photo Search. The aim is to engage the client in helping the memory artist find existing photographs or stand-in photos that will resolve some of the challenges identified in Step 2, the Brainstorming Phase.  I typically ask the client to find me the most precious picture they have of the subject; the picture they always carry on them; the photo stuck on the refrigerator or in a night table drawer. It could be a current photo or one taken years ago. The important part is that it captures the essence of our subject.

Step 4: Dreamscape Creation. After collecting key anecdotes as well as personal photos (ones that particularly resonate) and repurposing them, I will combine them with whimsical meaning-making elements (new backdrops and objects) to transform them in a positive way. I personally prefer photo manipulation software to digitally alter the photographs so that they bend to our needs in terms of scale, tone or depth.  The final assemblage of the dreamscape is done by me, with input from the client.

 Check your email for the mock-up “I create a rough of the dreamscape and email it to you.It will contain all the imagery we want to use but the cut out lines won’t be neat, the colors won’t be saturated and light and shadow won’t be in yet. This is the time to tell me which elements are working for you and which are not.


Step 5: Sharing Phase. The griever now has ownership of the completed dreamscape as well as a transcript of all recorded conver­sations (made by the memory artist) taking place during the healing dreamscape process. Sharing is often bi-directional – with the client sharing thoughts with the memory artist, followed by the memory artist volunteer­ing his or her own interpretations or in­tentions. Sharing also extends to the home and community, with the client sharing their dreamscape with loved ones, friends, acquaintances, or family members, discussing its meaning, and in doing so, making some unexpected discover­ies.  Such sharing tends to open dialogue about the life this human being lived, rather than about the loss it­self. It encourages others to ask the griever questions about the loved one and to share stories about the loved one’s legacy, which can be a key part of the grieving process. Above all, the client begins to view the dreamscape as a way to find a new role for themselves in the assumptive world.

Not only do these preferred storytelling pictures feel attainable, but shared with family and friends they launch a second round of healing, and then a third round of healing as a client’s own profound words are read back to them from transcripts made throughout the healing dreamscape process.