Doing No-Thing: a 2-Way Exercise
The art of doing no-thing with a needy patient is different from doing nothing for a needy patient. It’s an exercise in self-restraint for the doctor, and an exercise in self-discovery for the patient.
Dr. David F. Wehlage, a psychiatrist in Indiana published The Art of ‘Doing No-Thing in the Rhode Island Journal of Medicine back in 1986. It was a look at what may be the “most subversive activity, or inactivity, in modern medicine,” writes Abigail Zuger, MD.  (Zuger writes about Wehlage’s technique in her article “Don’t Do Something; Just Sit There.”) Wehlage advocated doing no-thing with particularly needy patients to activate their own natural problem solving capabilities.
Not unlike the art of parenting a bored child by telling them to try a little no-thing, Wehlage’s technique appears to be a form of reverse psychology, activating an individual’s instinct to rebel and go in the absolute opposite direction – which is brainstorming with oneself.
Namely, Wehlage says doctors occasionally need to write their own prescription which states in no uncertain terms that the patient should leave the office empty-handed (without yet another prescription, “weighty pronouncements,” or even placebos).
His philosophy of Doing-Nothing after periods of Doing Everything in Your Power include:
- Do not presupposed that people want something done
- Do not do something for people they can do themselves
- Do not presuppose there is something to offer
The question is, can this be applied not just to the relationship between doctor and patient or mother and child, Â but also friend to friend? Does it work when there is no clear parental figure in the relationship?